Well, Halloween is almost here and appropriately bf has become a real monster. He lulls me into believing things are going to be okay so that he can gain control, and out of love I accept it as reality.
Last night really took the cake. He had his kids and wanted to take them ice-skating so as always, I agreed he could use my car to go. I don’t ice-skate so I wasn’t up for it and a friend had called and asked if I could spend time with her because she was upset. So I told her he was taking the kids anyway and she could pick me up. After bf’s kids got picked up, even after the morning episode of him yelling at me in front of them over much nonsense which I chose to forgive, I invited him to join us at the pub. He did after hanging up on me twice, then sat next to my friend instead of me, talked to her and ignored me. He made rude remarks and innuendos regarding me to her and so on. He skipped work (3rd shift) just so he could do all this! Every time we went to the bathroom, my friend said ‘he’s a jerk, you need to break up with him.’ :( She said he was ‘creepy,’ so she was afraid to stay over night despite her inebriated state.
It was so hard to hear. I followed her home to make sure she got there okay and because she lives in another town, I told bf I was spending the night at her house and going to work from there. He called when we first left to tell me that because I left the house so quickly with her that he was changing the locks before I get home today. He called again at 1am to tell me that he’d put my indoor cat (which I’ve had more than 10 years) out in the front yard at 11 and she was now gone.
If either of those things are true, he is a monster. If neither of those things are true and he just said them to try to control me, he is a monster. I am beside myself.
