Comments on: Don’t fear for me… http://heavenandheck.wordpress.com/2006/08/08/dont-fear-for-me/ Relationships can be Heaven, but often they're.... Heck! Fri, 05 Sep 2008 19:30:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: TBOB http://heavenandheck.wordpress.com/2006/08/08/dont-fear-for-me/#comment-18 TBOB Thu, 10 Aug 2006 06:41:29 +0000 https://heavenandheck.wordpress.com/2006/08/08/dont-fear-for-me/#comment-18 The other thing to think about is how often you've had to get those flowers? I'm sorry to say this, but the lesson I've learned after many of my own painful experiences is to ask yourself this question: He says he loves you. But if this is the way he treats people he loves, do you really want to be one of them? I know it's not always that simple, but trust me, without some serious intervention, it gets worse, not better. Yelling leads to screaming leads to threatening leads to "a little" abuse, leads to a LOT of abuse. Right about the time you start using "choke" in a sentence, you have crossed into some very dangerous terrority. I realize you don't know me from Jake, but there's my two-cents worth., The other thing to think about is how often you’ve had to get those flowers?

I’m sorry to say this, but the lesson I’ve learned after many of my own painful experiences is to ask yourself this question:

He says he loves you. But if this is the way he treats people he loves, do you really want to be one of them?

I know it’s not always that simple, but trust me, without some serious intervention, it gets worse, not better. Yelling leads to screaming leads to threatening leads to “a little” abuse, leads to a LOT of abuse. Right about the time you start using “choke” in a sentence, you have crossed into some very dangerous terrority.

I realize you don’t know me from Jake, but there’s my two-cents worth.,

]]> By: heavenandheck http://heavenandheck.wordpress.com/2006/08/08/dont-fear-for-me/#comment-17 heavenandheck Wed, 09 Aug 2006 11:17:02 +0000 https://heavenandheck.wordpress.com/2006/08/08/dont-fear-for-me/#comment-17 Both are great advice and I think I shall do both. I will be direct and write to him about needing to seek therapy together. He has responded in the past to writing, but as you said, he is hard-headed so I have to choose words very carefully. I'll get started on something today. TY Both are great advice and I think I shall do both. I will be direct and write to him about needing to seek therapy together. He has responded in the past to writing, but as you said, he is hard-headed so I have to choose words very carefully. I’ll get started on something today. TY

]]> By: emmbie http://heavenandheck.wordpress.com/2006/08/08/dont-fear-for-me/#comment-15 emmbie Tue, 08 Aug 2006 20:11:21 +0000 https://heavenandheck.wordpress.com/2006/08/08/dont-fear-for-me/#comment-15 If talking won't work, have you tried writing? Maybe that will work. Maybe he won't respond to you verbally, but if you were to write to him, he would read it and respond back? I don't know. He seems really hard-headed like my husband. However, I've realized that my husband does respond when I write to him. And again, quoting Voff!, "... to be able to ocmpletely love someone else, you have to first love yourself." That is so true. If talking won’t work, have you tried writing? Maybe that will work. Maybe he won’t respond to you verbally, but if you were to write to him, he would read it and respond back? I don’t know. He seems really hard-headed like my husband. However, I’ve realized that my husband does respond when I write to him.

And again, quoting Voff!, “… to be able to ocmpletely love someone else, you have to first love yourself.” That is so true.

]]> By: Voff! http://heavenandheck.wordpress.com/2006/08/08/dont-fear-for-me/#comment-14 Voff! Tue, 08 Aug 2006 12:53:40 +0000 https://heavenandheck.wordpress.com/2006/08/08/dont-fear-for-me/#comment-14 I don't know what kind of man you're dealing with. Why not try to be completely upfront? Just tell him that you think therapy is something you both would benefit from as a couple, and that the alternative might be something worse. Not as a threat, mind you, but as a solution to bring you 2 back closer to where you were. Don't take it as advise, since only you can judge your situation. It's merely a thought to ponder. First and foremost: to be able to completely love someone else, you have to first love yourself. Make sure to feel good about your actions, whatever they are. Take care. I don’t know what kind of man you’re dealing with. Why not try to be completely upfront?

Just tell him that you think therapy is something you both would benefit from as a couple, and that the alternative might be something worse. Not as a threat, mind you, but as a solution to bring you 2 back closer to where you were.

Don’t take it as advise, since only you can judge your situation. It’s merely a thought to ponder.

First and foremost: to be able to completely love someone else, you have to first love yourself. Make sure to feel good about your actions, whatever they are.

Take care.

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